Elias Pelcastre

Beauty in Being Innately Human

Throughout September and October, millions of eyes are glued to the screen watching Fashion Week in New York, London, Milan and Paris to watch beautiful models strut the runway in chic clothing.

People find entertainment in taking note on the new styles, new designs and new products to keep up with what makes someone appear seemingly ‘flawless’.

These fashions shows and designers make millions of dollars off the colossal degree of human interest in this industry.

Watching fashion shows can do one of two things to people:

The fashion industry aims to shape people’s perceptions on what styles they should be into, what stores should be selling and ultimately what is seen as attractive.

Most people give in to this temptation as an attempt to feel accepted and noticed.

Even for those who do not tune in to fashion week, the media affects everyone. Whether or not someone wants to believe it, we all care to some degree how other people perceive us. What is an unfortunate part of this journey is that many people care first about what others will think before they take into consideration what they think of themselves.

In a society that profits off people’s insecurities, liking yourself is a rebellious act.

The media does a good job at subliminally body-shaming everyone who does not meet the industry’s standard of beauty. Photoshopping images of women to shave off inches of skin and blurring imperfections on the body does not provide a realistic reality for people to follow; men and women alike are victims to this slavery. It is sad that this message is delivered to younger and younger generations as time passes. Growing up, we fill our heads with other people’s thoughts about us without understanding the world for ourselves. We are brought up to believe that beautiful comes in one size, shape and color. There is a stigma that there is one formula to qualify as worthy and visible to the rest of the world.

What needs to be understood is that we are all human but we are all different.

To think there are more than 7 billion people on this earth and only a given handful of them are perceived to be beautiful is a disgrace to mankind. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There is more to beauty than just what shows on the outside that makes a person beautiful. There is no method to shape this conception; just as there is no art that is better than another. It all depends on who is viewing it.

Those that pay special attention to the media and the fashion/modeling world are especially prone to self-dissatisfaction because they are constantly exposed to these unrealistic images and standards.

Sure there are models that REALLY look this way, but that’s because they spend their lives trying to look good and that is all they focus on. For people living everyday lives outside of the fashion industry, this is not an obtainable look and it shouldn’t be.

There are so many images across social media where ladies are trying to pull off the “skinny arm” or the “rib cage” look. It is so obvious when you are trying to make yourself appear thinner and it takes away from the credibility of your natural beauty. And let’s be honest, is sucking in your stomach really going to make THAT much of a difference?

There is no reason to be insecure. Being proud of yourself and holding a shield of confidence makes you so much more attractive. Even people who do not match up to the golden ratio of standardized beauty will be brought up in the rating scale because their personality can bring it out of them. People become less attractive if they have horrible character. You can be as hot as you want, but if you have a ghastly personality, you are no longer beautiful in many eyes. Sure, they might still look good in pictures, but that’s about all they have going for them.

People are constantly comparing themselves to people in photographs and are constantly trying to achieve a certain look to match. There will always be someone better looking with better clothes, better hair, better skin, better everything. But the grass is not necessarily greener on the other side; it is greener where you water it. And if you focus on watering your own grass instead of comparing your lawn to your neighbors, you will be much happier with the outcome. This way, you can be the one who others strive to be like: a beautiful, confident self made individual.

Confidence is apparent. The people who are insecure about how they look in pictures and in person are unhappy and tend to not be as successful as those who focus on loving themselves for who they are.

People who deliver confidence and love themselves have a natural glow about them that is very attractive in a non-conventional way.

Because this:

is more attractive than this:

Even someone who may not appear ‘attractive’ at first can boost their appeal by letting their personality shine through.

I’m sure everyone has experienced this before: where you don’t find someone attractive but keep him or her as a friend then slowly grow more attracted because you get to know his or her personality. Highlighting the point made earlier, beauty comes in many forms. Aesthetic appeal is just one of them but is not necessarily the defining factor.

So ladies and gentlemen, cut out all the skinny arm looks, sucking it in, trying to get that ‘perfect’ bod, and trying to make your skin void of imperfections. Because as humans, we are all imperfect and there is not simply one way to be beautiful.